Here’s Why You Should Give Up On Your Dreams

I’m afraid it’s time to quit

Emeka Nwanedo
6 min readDec 14, 2021


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Sometimes it’s better to be a quitter than to be a hero.

Not many of us like the idea of quitting. It seems like something we should all be ashamed of. It slams a big ‘loser tag’ on our foreheads — “If you’re a quitter, you’re a loser.”

Giving up passes a message that we’re failures. When people give up, it seems like they’ve accepted defeat as the only possible outcome.

Common logic also suggests that quitting is tantamount to loosing while some people go as far as believing that people who give up will never become successful.

But they are wrong.

Sometimes giving up can be the best thing you can ever do for yourself — sometimes quitting is exactly what you should do.

Want to know why? Ask yourself these 5 questions first.

1. Why Am I doing this?

Have you ever found yourself working so hard on something without knowing exactly why?

Perhaps someone asked you to do it — they say it’s pretty cool if you did “this or that.” Or maybe everyone else is doing it — so, well, you don’t want to be the black sheep.

It’s important to keep asking yourself why you’re doing the things you do.

Why am I working on this? What’s this for? What’s the ultimate goal? How do I benefit from this? Why do it now?

The deeper you probe, the clearer the picture gets.

Knowing the answers to these questions will help you better understand the work itself.

2. Is it working for me?

Am I solving a problem by doing what I’m doing? Is what I’m doing helping me? Is it working for me?

What’s even the problem?

Am I a bit confused? Was something not possible before that should be possible now because of this?

Do I have enough information to arrive at a decent conclusion?

Sometimes when you ask yourself these questions, you’ll find you’re solving an imaginary problem. And yes, that’s when it’s time to stop and re-evaluate what the…



Emeka Nwanedo

2X Top Writer. An ex-banker who’s dedicated to lifelong learning and a proud dad of 2 lovely kids. Subscribe here: